“You’ve ruined your daughter! She will have emotional/mental issues throughout her life because of you! She will need therapy! You’re a horrible mom! You’ve failed! You’ve ruined her!” The words rushed through my head whispered in a silent, yet loud, scream throughout my entire being as gut wrenching sobs shook my body. It was night […]
“We absorb shame in 3 seconds, BUT it takes about 30 seconds to absorb a compliment!” This statement by Curt Thompson, who is a Christian psychiatrist in private practice, has been a huge eye opener for me! When he shared this at the IF Gathering this spring and explored with us in detail why and […]
Secrets. The very word evokes mystery, questions, and suspense. We are all eager to know everyone else’s secrets, but rarely want anyone to know ours. Why is that? I think it’s because most secrets are rooted in shame. If shame was not attached to our secrets, we would have no problem saying them out loud. […]
“My thighs are so fat.” The apologetic words came spilling out in response to me seeing her partially uncovered legs. There should be no shame, and yet… there it was. Words breathed out, laced with shame. I felt the pain in the air. Words sprang to my lips, quick and ready to disagree with her […]